I have to admit when Jerry and I were dating and then got married I never imagined we would have such a big family. Growing up and thinking about my family size was something I never really thought about either. I know alot of people are amazed when they find out I have 5 kids. And I have heard every comment from "What a blessing!", "You are lucky", and "Good for you", "Don't you know what causes that yet?!" to which I have replied "Yes I do know what causes it, but hey when your so good at something why stop?! That usually hushes people up. I enjoy the positive comments from people. I just could never understand how people could say judgemental things though. I would never imagine saying to someone with one child "Don't you know how to make a baby yet, maybe you need more practice" I strongly feel each persons family size is a personal choice and not to be judged by others. I can honestly not imagine my life with a small family. And I realize that is what most parents say after they have their family complete but I have seriously sat and thought about it. When my kids were younger it was hard running around after 5 kids ages 8 and younger. And there were days I wanted to pull my hair out. Over the years though I have realized that this is what was meant to be. I love seeing my brood of kids every morning and putting them to bed at night. Every parent cherishes the hugs and kisses of their kids, the way a child runs to you when you walk in from being out, getting homemade gifts and all the other joys a child brings. I feel extremely blessed that I get all of the times 5!! I have had numerous stays in hospitals the past few years, and one of the things that kept me going were the phone calls home and waiting to talk to each of the 5 kids. Coming home and them running to me saying how much they missed me. I strongly believe they are what has kept me fighting through my health issues. I never once said "why me" or "poor Patty", I have always fought to get through it for them. When the doctors first thought I had MS, my main goal was to stay strong enough and fight it long enough to dance at each of my kids weddings. I would have given up years ago without them to fight for. I am not saying it is all fun and games with 5 kids running around, always trying to keep the peace, making sure each one feels special and loved, giving each of them alone time but somehow we do it. And of course we have made sacrifices due to a large sized family but I would not change one single thing just to make life easier. There is a saying "you never realize how much you love someone until they are gone". My saying is "You never realize how much you can love someone until they are there".
4 comments:
Goodness that's sweet!
Got me a lil choked up :)
Glad you're bloggin.
Thanks Mya! I have wanted to write that kind of blog for awhile now but could never figure out how to put it all in words. Today though it just came out. I am glad I am bloggin too, I like it!!
I wondered when you were going to start blogging. LOL
I know what you mean Patty, people just don't think before the speak. I begin to tell you all the times I was hurt by people saying we needed more kids.
I totally understand Kristine. I have heard people make comments about people having more kids when they have one and I think it is just as rude as when people comment my large family. It is your family, your choice. It drives me crazy when people think they know what is best for someone elses family, especially when it comes to something as personal as family size.
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